Anger Digging Into You?

Must I forgive someone even if they keep on hurting me?

‘Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.’ (Luke 23vs34)

No-one had asked Jesus for forgiveness. In fact, His enemies are in the midst of killing Him in one of the most inhumane ways known to man. But He calls out forgiveness for them anyways.

My friend Rob had this picture of two hooks joined by some fishing gut. One hook in you and one in the person who wronged you. Forgiveness is like taking the hook out of yourself and handing it to God. God will still deal with the other person but you are refusing to be hurt any more by the wrong that has been done.

Are there hooks hurting you? Anyone you need to release right now?

Luke 23 here:



What If I Don’t Feel Like Forgiving?

What if I really don’t feel like forgiving someone?

Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’ (Matthew 18vs21-22)

A common mistake is that we view forgiveness as a feeling. Much like patience though, you will not often feel like forgiving. Jesus calls us to do it anyway. It is a choice and depending on the size of the thing we are forgiving, the more often we might have to make that choice.

If you bump into me in the hallway I will forgive you once and it’s done. But if you sexually abused someone I know, then that forgiveness will have to happen a whole lot more often. I will keep making the choice to forgive and then living as if I have forgiven you.

Anyone you don’t feel like forgiving?

Matthew 18 here:



Forgiveness – How Much Is Too Much?

Can I get away with forgiveness as a once-off thing?

‘Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’ (Matthew 18vs21-22)

This does not mean that when someone hurts me I keep count until the seventy-eighth time and then smack them on the head! The principle Jesus is describing is that in the kingdom of God, forgiveness looks ridiculous.

There is no end to it.

Is there anyone you need to forgive again, again?

Matthew 18 here:



Forgiving And Forgetting

People talk about forgiving and forgetting, but I find it really hard sometimes, maybe even impossible. Is that bad?

‘As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.’ (Psalm 103vs12 – read it here:

If we believe that God knows everything, then how is it possible that He forgets our sins? Does He develop some kind of spiritual amnesia? I don’t believe so. In fact I think it is so much more powerful if God, remembering my sins, chooses not to hold them against me.

When God looks at me, He now sees Jesus and the sacrifice He made on the cross and treats me as if I have never committed any of those sins. When I ask for forgiveness, I can rest assured that it is freely given.

What would it take to really believe that?